Date Your Children

Having four children, homeschooling, running a home-based business, and serving in ministry, it can be difficult to find quality time with each child. A few years ago, the Lord showed me the perfect way to build up our relationships; dating my children!

Every Saturday, the children and I head over to my mother-in-laws’ house for a visit. I drop off three of my children (who excitedly run into the house and announce they are ready for fun and food), then the fourth child and I head on out for a date.

When on our dates, I usually allow my children to decide what they would like to do. Sometimes we go for a walk or visit antique stores. At other times, we have gone for fancy tea parties or ice cream. It doesn’t matter where we go, what matters is that we are spending time together.

I think one of the greatest joys of our “dates” is getting to know who my children are. I am often surprised by their observations and questions about life. I have learned so much about their dreams, their fears, and their struggles.

Right now, being that summer is a little crazy, our dates have been on hold. Getting back to school in another week (and a more settled schedule), we are looking forward to resuming our Saturday “dates”.

I pray that the Lord would use these days to strengthen our relationships and unify our family. That He would use these times to teach me about my children and how I can better minister to their needs. Sometimes I wonder if my children will look back on these days fondly, remembering all the little things that really meant nothing and yet everything.

How do you “date” your children?


11 thoughts on “Date Your Children

  1. I haven’t started “dating” my younger two, but I do take out the older two girls about once a month. We particularly like to go get a hot cocoa and a cookie at a local coffee shop. But anything will do as long as we’re alone- no brother or sisters tagging along.


  2. This was soooooo important with my two sons being not quite a year apart. They had a wonderful step-dad who would divide and conquer with me, so to speak, so that each boy was having a Mommy/Son or Cary/Step-son date… so that they each felt special and had our undivided attention. Since they were so close in age, they were generally always on the same teams, the same bus, had the same friends, went to the same birthday parties, etc., so this too gave THEM some time apart to be their authentic selves without the pressure of sibling rivalry.


    • Oh, I am so glad that you were able to get that time with the boys. Cary certainly sounds like a nice guy. I don’t know many men who would have done the same. Do you continue to “date them” now that they are older? Recently, my mom asked if I would go on a “date” with her! I thought that was pretty neat. I hope my children want to spend some one-on-one time with me, even when they get older.


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