Have you ever been in a quiet setting and had someone rudely interrupt with a loud comment? I have. I find this highly annoying and equally frustrating. I imagine others might feel the same.
A recent homeschool outing to the Venice Type-In brought this issue front and center for me. Here we were in a quiet theatre, watching a film about the history of typewriters, when a lady in the audience starts making comments about the film.
The first comment didn’t throw me as much, I thought perhaps she didn’t realize how loud she was and that she would refrain from future comments. Only… no! Every few moments or so, she would comment on something else seen or laugh very loudly.
A week or so later, my husband and I were at the screening of yet another documentary and experienced the same occurrence. A few people in the audience felt the need to shout out a comment or two.
My opposition wasn’t necessarily to the comments, but rather to the timing of them. Every time these people made a comment, the rest of us were unable to hear or focus on the film.
I began to seriously wonder if these people had a “buffer zone”. That little place inside all of us that tells us when something really needs to be said or if we need to restrain ourselves.
My husband and I have a friend who seems to have lost his “buffer zone” pretty much all together. He has actually asked people, to their face, why they have gotten so fat lately. Really?!
I wonder why it, is that certain people don’t seem to recognize when a comment is out-of-place, either by its timing or purely by its existence.
Since these events, it occurs to me that perhaps I need to be taking better stock of my kids’ “buffer zone”. Do they speak at times when it is best to remain quiet? Do they say things that ought not to be said?
I would hate to be out somewhere with my children and find myself slinking down in my chair, due to the ridiculous nonsense that just came out of one of their mouths.
Thankfully this doesn’t seem to be a frequent occurrence and is often a teaching moment for all of us.
I hope that as my children grow, their “buffer zone” remains steadily in place.
How do you feel about people shouting out comments in a quiet moment?