My children, with the exception of one, are very outgoing. They talk easily amongst their friends, family, and even with new acquaintances. Even the one who is seriously shy often opens up after a few moments.
They like to talk about what they are learning and ask others what they are being taught (either homeschooled or not). They enjoy hearing about other’s goals, adventures, and struggles.
Our children will generally carry on a conversation with just about anyone, anywhere, on almost any topic.
It seems this can become a problem, especially amongst their peers. My children have often commented that others will ask them to stop talking because they “talk too much”.
When asked the context of the conversation, it is sometimes mentioned that my children were anxious to share how their week had been going and their friend did not care to hear all the details.
My daughters, in particular, are anxious to please their teachers at church and actively participate in class discussions. When questions arise, my girls leap at the opportunity to answer.
This too appears problematic. Other children do not like it when the same kids answer the questions or offer to assist.
While it breaks my heart and, I believe, somewhat hinders our children’s enthusiasm, we have encouraged our children to perhaps talk a little less.
We have recommended they perhaps share things with only their closest friends and, even then, only the highlights. We have suggested they allow other people the chance to answer questions and offer advice first, then if no one else has something to offer, they may try.
While I do not know if this is, in fact, the correct solution, I do know my children feel less self-conscious and are less often accused of “talking too much”.
I know this is yet another lesson in the art of communication, but it does beg the question… How much talking is too much?