My son loves his Angry Birds, no doubt about it. He could play them all day long and still not tire of them. He has board games, t-shirts, hats, and various other items displaying his entertainment of choice as well. However, when my son started resembling a little too keenly his favorite characters, it seemed time to nip things in the bud.
Being six years old must be a tough age. You aren’t a baby, but aren’t quite able to do everything your mind can think up. Your coordination is still developing, you’re learning new lessons and being given more responsibility now that you’re getting old enough to handle certain new skills.
Now, compound that with having not only a mom and a day, but three older sisters trying to help you, teach you, redirect you, and often discipline you (even when they shouldn’t). This poor little guy can get overwhelmed very quickly!
I can understand being upset, really I can. There are moments all of us become overwhelmed by the situation or our emotions get the better of us. What I couldn’t allow to happen though, was for this to become a habit or for my son to feel he was allowed to act out in his anger. No, some boundaries needed to be set.
While there are no fool-proof plans to helping someone overcome anger, I think there are some basic steps we can take toward reaching our goal.
Understand the Problem – Until I diagnose the cause of someone’s anger, I cannot truly help them start to overcome it. Find the source and that will help lead you to the answer.
Walk Away From the Problem – If possible, I have learned to remove my child from the situation which is causing him to lose his cool. Sometimes just walking away for a moment helps clear his head.
Handle the Problem – If temporary avoidance doesn’t help us out, perhaps we need to tackle the situation together. Helping them see the problem through a different lens might bring about a change.
Deal with the Attitude – Sometimes the source of anger isn’t a situation, it is the heart of the person involved. There are various ways we have helped our kids deal with their attitudes: prayer, communication, time alone, and, when absolutely necessary, discipline.
Each day is a new opportunity for us to win the victory over our emotions. With every new circumstance, we can develop a higher tolerance to our own anger and chose to make the best decisions possible.
Have any of your children struggled with anger? What helped them?
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,…” – Eph. 4:26