Have you ever noticed that most mumbling is due to an attitude problem? Oh, sure; there is the occasional shy person who needs to speak up or the person who likes to talk to themselves out loud (guilty!), but usually… it’s just plain, old, bad manners!
Rather than say something directly to you, some find it easier to express their unhappiness through snide comments and disrespectful remarks; indistinguishable, but heard none-the-less.
So when this nasty, little habit starts invading our home, it’s time to do some pest control and rid ourselves of the mumbles.
I think, most often, the root of mumbling is an ungrateful heart; someone is unhappy with the situation at hand. When things don’t go their way, the grumbling and mumbling commences.
There are several problems with this scenario. First, the mumbler is not going to be heard and the problem will never be resolved. Second, the mumbler will continue to harvest those bad feelings and become even more upset. Thirdly, the ‘mumblee’ is left unable to address any complaints and remedy the situation.
How does one go about solving the mumbling condition? One of two ways:
- Talk it Out: When at all possible, I make my children stop (mid-mumble) and speak clearly enough to be heard. We attempt to work through the situation and address our problem. When the conversation is finished, we resume our activities. If, however, this option does not work, we move onto to option number two….
- Training Commences: I would prefer to never discipline my children. I’d like to think they are so loving and wonderful that a simple talk would fix the world and we could all move on with happy lives. Reality Check… not going to happen as often as I would like. So, unfortunately, discipline needs to be given. How you choose to discipline is entirely up to you, we have our own preferred methods (which is an entirely different topic for another day) which we employ regularly.
I cannot begin to express how much I dislike mumbling. I have been known to halt everything just get this phenomena to stop.
I have no issue with an open discussion of a difference of opinion; in fact, I welcome it. These talks often lead to some awesome discussions and helpful insights into my children’s minds. Mumbling, however, is neither helpful nor productive.
Parents: How do you handle things when the mumbles become overwhelming?
“Do all things without grumbling or questioning,” – Philippians 2:14