I Don’t Want You to Just Be Happy,…

… I want you to be holy!


THIS link seems to be making its way around the WP homeschooling realm. While I find his lecture to be quite interesting, I had a few thoughts of my own. 

I see his point, really I do; this young man excitedly explaining how his parents “hacked” his education and fit his learning to meet his needs. I will even go so far as to say I agree, to a point. However, there is one factor with which I disagree…. I do not want my children to grow up and just be happy; I want my children to grow up and be holy.

What is the basis our children’s education? That is the foundation upon which all other learning will take place. The young man is absolutely correct in one respect. It isn’t about what you will do with your life, career wise. It isn’t about how “successful” you become nor how much money you make. However, I would also argue, it isn’t about just being happy either.

If my children live for just their own happiness, they are being selfish. They will have lives which become self-centered and self-glorified. They will seek temporary, transient, pleasure, rather than things of eternal value.

Instead, I want my children’s education to be based on the foundation that all they do is for the glory of God. He is to be the center of all they do and He is to be their purpose. When He reveals the path our children should take, then our learning begins to form around where He is leading; not where our own desires might divert us.

For example, one of my daughters is gifted with the ability to write. Seeing her talents, we pray about how the Lord is going to use this and ask Him to guide us in her learning. We supplement her studies with plenty of writing opportunities and venues which encourage this. Throughout all of her learning, our goal is not to make her famous or “successful”, it is to find out where the Lord is going to use this talent and how He will direct this gift.

Now, here is the interesting part. When we base our lives on what He wants, we get the desires of our heart. Why? Because now our desires align with what is best and He loves to bless us beyond all we could imagine. Those talents, gifts, and heartfelt desires become a reality because He is using those for His own purpose and glory.

Another fascinating aspect to this, is that the bi-product of a holy life is joy! Joy is so much better than happiness. Happiness is circumstantial and comes from the happenings, fleeting moments, in your life. Joy, however, is deep-rooted in a life well lived and an inner peace which can only come from God. It’s not that happiness is wrong, but why stop at happy, when you could have joy?

Our daughter isn’t happy, she is overwhelmed by joy. This stems not from circumstances, which might change, but from a natural gift which she openly acknowledges comes from God. When she is following His leading, joy simply emanates; more importantly, she is walking righteously.

So, I guess you could say… “I don’t want you to just be happy; I want you to experience joy!”

‘As obedient children, do not be conformed to the passions of your former ignorance, but as he who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, since it is written, “You shall be holy, for I am holy.”’ – I Peter 1:14-16


7 thoughts on “I Don’t Want You to Just Be Happy,…

  1. Totally true. As a kid we use to sing, ‘Joy is the flag flown high from the castle of my heart when king Jesus is in residence there’.I’d rather our children fear God instead of pursuing happiness.


  2. Well said! May God help us keep his eternal purposes in mind as we homeschool. It’s so easy to let homeschooling be about so many other things: happiness, family time, opportunities, education, etc.. Pointing our children to the loving arms of our Saviour is the most important thing we can impress upon them. Deuteronomy 6:6-9 – Gwen


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