Whew! I could breathe a sigh of relief. Looking over that clever diagram of how home schoolers are measuring up, I could tell we were doing fairly well and I felt encouraged by how successful home schoolers are doing as a whole.
Then, a thought occurred to me… this isn’t why I chose to home school. It doesn’t matter how others are doing. What matters is how my home schoolers measure up. Not to someone else, not to a diagram, and not to a standardized test; rather, how they measure up to their own capabilities.
I can see how this diagram really comes in handy. There are people who need to see the numbers before they will believe that home schooling truly is and can be a success. Others need encouragement, seeing the evidence of their hard work. I could see myself using diagrams like this, presenting it to those who might have questions or doubt the outcome of learning at home.
I need to issue a cautionary note though, more to myself than anyone else. My advice is this: ” Self… this is not the measure of your child!” There, I said it.
The minute I start spending more time focusing on whether or not we meet someone else’s standards for my family, rather than on what they need, that is when I lose my way. This isn’t a competition between them and anyone else; they are to achieve at their own pace.
So, while I highly recommend using this as a reference, I also need to ensure I am not using such diagrams as a guide for living. I will not panic if my child is a little below the “standard” and I am not going to get puffed up with pride if my child “excels”. I am going to accept my children for what they are, helping them to become the best they can be.
What do you use to help measure your children’s achievements?
“But let each one test his own work, and then his reason to boast will be in himself alone and not in his neighbor.” – Galatians 6:4