I used to think that in order to be brave you needed to be free of fear. I quickly learned this was not the case. True bravery is being afraid and still rising to the occasion.
Fear is hard to deal with, even as an adult. To children, fear can often be insurmountable. Taking that first step when cold panic sets in is never easy. As parents, how do we help our children overcome their fear and move forward?
Through Prayer – Kids need prayer just as much as we adults do. When our children are facing a difficult situation, we need to demonstrate the power of prayer.
Through Discussion – Helping our children identify exactly what they are afraid of often helps them to continue on. When we know what we are afraid of, we can battle that monster and conquer the problem. This is a great time to discuss previous experiences that have already been overcome or personal examples of when you conquered a fear of your own. It would also be a good time to draw up a ‘battle plan’; explaining how our children can attack this problem/situation and finish well.
Through Action – The first step is the hardest. We need to encourage our children to get moving. Instead of looking at the problem as a whole, think of it in baby steps. Focus on one step at a time and, before you know it, you’ll be there! If that first step is a big one or they just can’t seem to walk it by themselves, perhaps walking hand-in-hand with mom or dad might be in order. After a little initial help, our children will soon learn to move forward on their own.
Through Example – As mentioned above, in our discussions and in our life we should model how to conquer our fears. When our children see us pursue issues in times of struggle and anxiety, they too will begin to face their own fears.
Fear can paralyze both in mind and body, if we choose to allow it. But that is the key… if we allow it! Through prayer, discussion, and action we have the ability to conquer anything put before us; we only need to move forward.
Time to Chime In: What was the last fear your child needed to conquer and how did you help them overcome it?
“The LORD is my light and my salvation– whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life– of whom shall I be afraid?” – Psalm 27:1