At the end of each learning year I try to self-evaluate. As my children’s teacher, are there areas which could use some improvement? How can I help my children better understand what I’m trying to share with them? Is there anything I’m doing which is preventing my children from drawing closer to the Lord?
Perhaps my evaluation ought to begin with ways in which I could be failing. Hey, you have to start somewhere!
- Force Curriculum – While I’m all for exposing our children to various pursuits, and require our children learn all core subjects, there is a significant difference between mandatory subjects and forcing curriculum. Algebra is non-negotiable in our house, but I’m all for trying various companies and methods to find which works best for each child.
- Do Everything in a Book – Nothing frustrates a child more than having their nose stuck in a textbook all day. I need to make sure I’m offering a good balance of book work, hands-on projects, and active outside opportunities.
- Make Them Do Everything – I know there are a lot of awesome activities in that language arts book. It can be very tempting to make my kiddos do every-single-one. However, that might not be the best way to encourage a love of learning. I need to pick my battles and be willing to let a few stray addition problems go. On occasion. Maybe.
- Don’t Listen to Them – Am I talking over my kids? Constantly? Do I allow them to (respectfully) share their thoughts and opinions? Perhaps if I listened more, and truly heard them, we might get a little further.
- Confuse Them – Am I being too vague in my teaching? Am I explaining things fully or in a manner which they can understand? Am I teaching to them or at them? If I am teaching for the sake of teaching, with them taking nothing away, what is the point?
- Be Demanding – Do this! Do that! Come here! Sit down! Be quiet! (See the problem here?) None of this is being said with love, kindness, grace, or understanding. I need to make sure I am tempering my responses, requests, and commands with affection. It helps; it really does!
- Offer No Free Time – I need to be careful how much time we are spending with organized activity. Too little can be an issue, but so can too much! Want to drive your kids crazy? Take away all free time.
- Refuse Questions – I know it’s frustrating being interrupted when you are in the middle of a thought. But, what if the interruption leads to wonderful things?! What if you need to be interrupted because your child just isn’t getting it?
- Lecture Often – This topic always conjures up images of Mr. Ben Stein. Me standing at the front of the ‘room’, book in hand, chalkboard behind; I’m droning on and on regarding a topic my kids have lost all interest in, thanks to my monologue. While I’m all for a pointed lesson on a given topic, I need to evaluate whether I’m being helpful or just speaking to hear my own voice. (Ouch!)
- Forget Character Training – Here’s a biggie!! While I don’t find public school teachers responsible for character training (they aren’t the parents after all), I cannot get by with this excuse. I AM the parent! It’s my job to train my child in the way he should go. Shoving through a stack of textbooks and paperwork does my child little good if I am not teaching them how to be righteous in the process.
I’d like to offer up a sigh of relief (and a quick chuckle); I’m not completely failing as a teacher. However, I can also see areas in which I might need to relax. I tend to want my children to finish every single problem, in every single book.
Overall, we’re doing pretty well. The kids love learning, we’re progressing nicely, and our family is centered on Christ. With His help we’re accomplishing more than I could have ever dreamed. Perhaps I’m not doing such a bad job after all.
“May my teaching drop as the rain, my speech distill as the dew, like gentle rain upon the tender grass, and like showers upon the herb.”
– Deuteronomy 32:2
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