“I’m sorry, honey. I’ve just got too much to do right now. I’d like to join you, but I can’t. Are you mad?”
Being married to an illustrator who works from home is tons of fun. It also means we sometimes have to make challenging decisions. For instance, which is more important: My husband joining us on that awesome field trip or working to pay for the awesome field trip?
Recently, I listened to a podcast called Building Relationships. On the show, Dr. Chapman was discussing just this dilemma in his own household. He asked his wife this honest question, “Would you rather have the $50 this job will make, or the 2 hours of my time?” While our first response might seem obvious. (Who would be so shallow as to choose money over time?) Life is often not this simple.
Perhaps our family is in need of the finances. Work might be especially slow and the finances would be a blessing. Maybe this would be a once in a lifetime opportunity, and the job is worth the loss of time.
On the flip side, I might just think our time is of more value and am willing to pass on the few dollars this job could bring. But, are there limits to the value I’m putting on our time? What if the job paid $200? Would I be willing to rethink the question?
In our home, this question pops up quite a bit. My husband’s work schedule – chaotic and sporadic at times – must always be taken into account when planning homeschooling events. As much as possible he loves to join in. However, we also understand there are limits.
I love the heart behind Dr. Chapman’s message. Be grateful for both – financial provision and quality time – but learn to evaluate each situation accordingly. Don’t be afraid to choose what’s best for your family!
“To every [thing there is] a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:”
Time to Chime In: Right now, where you’re at; would you rather have the $50 or two hours of your spouse’s time?