They might cover their eyes, make faces, and even express disgust at our displays of affection, but underneath the fuss our kids not only want to see our marriage work, they need to. Let’s face it, our marriages matter!
Second only to my walk with the Lord, is my relationship with my husband. While our marriage blesses me beyond anything I could express, I’ve found it also ministers to our children. How we treat one another and how the Lord works through our relationship will teach them more than you would believe:
- Respect – Appreciation for who God has brought into our lives.
- Submission – For us ladies, an opportunity to share how submission can be a blessing. We are neither doormats nor the boss, but a lovely example of what God can do through a willing vessel.
- Humility – Our willingness to be wrong, to not always have our own way, and to put others first.
- Faith – Belief in our spouse, trusting that God is in control and working through them for our greater good.
- Loyalty – No one, besides God, comes first; not even our children. The needs and desires of our spouse are important to us and it shows.
- Tenderness – Our husbands model strength under restraint; choosing to handle wives with care.
- Sacrifice – We put not our own desires, but the greater good, first. Our desire to put our spouse’s needs before our own.
- Generosity – Seeking ways to bless our spouse, giving of ourselves continually with a thankful heart.
- Edification – Lifting up one another in prayer, word, and deed. Seeking to encourage our spouse to grow closer to the Lord and be filled.
- Love – In action, not merely with ‘feelings’ (which so easily deceive). An outward showing of heartfelt appreciation.
- Affection – Appropriate displays of affection, modeling proper behavior both at home and out in public.
In daily life, in learning endeavors; in seasons of growth and seasons of pain; how we live out our marriages is one of the greatest lessons we will teach our children. We can choose to use our marriage to bless, or allow our marriage to become the center of destruction.
May our marriages be a blessing in the lives of our children. May they see God working in us and through us for His greater good. And, may the Lord bless them with marriages even greater than our own!
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,”
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