Why Your Marriage Matters!

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Why_Your_Marriage_MattersThey might cover their eyes, make faces, and even express disgust at our displays of affection, but underneath the fuss our kids not only want to see our marriage work, they need to. Let’s face it, our marriages matter!

Second only to my walk with the Lord, is my relationship with my husband. While our marriage blesses me beyond anything I could express, I’ve found it also ministers to our children. How we treat one another and how the Lord works through our relationship will teach them more than you would believe:

  • Respect – Appreciation for who God has brought into our lives.
  • Submission – For us ladies, an opportunity to share how submission can be a blessing. We are neither doormats nor the boss, but a lovely example of what God can do through a willing vessel.
  • Humility – Our willingness to be wrong, to not always have our own way, and to put others first.
  • Faith – Belief in our spouse, trusting that God is in control and working through them for our greater good.
  • Loyalty – No one, besides God, comes first; not even our children. The needs and desires of our spouse are important to us and it shows.
  • Tenderness – Our husbands model strength under restraint; choosing to handle wives with care.
  • Sacrifice – We put not our own desires, but the greater good, first. Our desire to put our spouse’s needs before our own.
  • Generosity – Seeking ways to bless our spouse, giving of ourselves continually with a thankful heart.
  • Edification – Lifting up one another in prayer, word, and deed. Seeking to encourage our spouse to grow closer to the Lord and be filled.
  • Love – In action, not merely with ‘feelings’ (which so easily deceive). An outward showing of heartfelt appreciation.
  • Affection – Appropriate displays of affection, modeling proper behavior both at home and out in public.

In daily life, in learning endeavors; in seasons of growth and seasons of pain; how we live out our marriages is one of the greatest lessons we will teach our children. We can choose to use our marriage to bless, or allow our marriage to become the center of destruction.

May our marriages be a blessing in the lives of our children. May they see God working in us and through us for His greater good. And, may the Lord bless them with marriages even greater than our own!

“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,”
Ephesians 5:22-23

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21 thoughts on “Why Your Marriage Matters!”

  2. I agree. My sons joke around just like their dad with me. One day I heard my eldest call his girlfriend “Darling” (I say that to my husband sometimes for fun.) But most importantly I see with my oldest how he cares for his girlfriend (future fiance). They are watching, more then we know.
    From my parents I really learned what not to do.

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  5. My father was absent for my entire childhood. Sadly, my mother had the same example. I have the utmost respect for people raising their children entirely on their own; it’s a lot of work.

    That being said… the most valuable lesson I learned from my parent’s marriage (or lack thereof) is to stick it out. Don’t allow your emotions to control who you are and what you do (dad); make it work no matter what. From my mother, she taught me to always show respect for my husband; to represent him in the loveliest of ways and take care of myself for his benefit.

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  9. What I learned is to do the complete Opposite of what my parents did. I’m actually happy that my parents divorced. We were all much happier after. No yelling or fighting, my mother no longer crying. The best part was that they became great friends and were great at coparenting.
    In my marriage we communicate, date each other, and trust in God!

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    • I had much the same experience as you. I witnessed my parents miserable marriage from the front row from age 10 on and felt like cheering when they finally divorced after I went to college. Mine was a very matriarchal home. My mom called all the shots and was very, very critical of my dad. I think that was the first lesson I had to unlearn with my own husband…how to be respectful. Ironically, my parents got re-married 15 years later and now live in the house directly behind me. Sadly, their marriage dynamics are the same as they were before.

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  11. Growing up my parents had a very rocky marriage. I learned two distinct lessons from them though. First, is not to never give up and keep fighting for your marriage. Second, is as a wife we need to pray for our husbands but do not ask to change him. We should ask to have our own hearts changed. They have been married 44 years and in the last 5 years they both have completely transformed. I love seeing there relationship now. It’s amazing to see how God has been at work in them.

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