The Dead Zone

Dead_ZoneI could feel it coming on; a total shut down. I had, once again, overloaded the organ currently called a brain and put it into meltdown mode. Too much information was being entered, a mass amount of work was being done, and my body was calling it quits.

How often do we do this to ourselves? Personally, I do it far too often. From the minute I wake up ’til the minute I get the kiddos down (and sometimes beyond), I am rushing at the speed of light; trying to accomplish more than is humanly possible.

The result of all my busy-ness? The dead zone. A temporary state of mind where I have to literally stop everything and just breathe. A point in time when, if I don’t stop, I’ll careen myself right into shortness of breath and a massive headache.

What causes the dead zone? An overload of activity or activity which I had not planned for. On occasion, it can also be caused by my own foolishness; namely, me choosing to do far too much on any given day. (Yeah; that’s usually the one that gets me.)

Last week is a prime example… We needed to get learning done in the morning. I got the kiddos started. While they were wrapping up work, I did a list of chores and cooked some food. We rushed through lunch and headed out the door. We handled a special event and ran two errands before I dropped the kiddos at home with their pop. I headed back out to do a few more errands, only to come home and start another list of things I wanted to get done before the day was over. Did I mention all of this took place before dinner time?

Now, mind you, every day is not like this! (Thank the Lord!) But I have noticed a trend. More and more days are becoming like this. It needs to stop. Having a busy day once in a while is alright and understandable, but doing this several times a week is just too much.

The sad part is, the main culprit is me. No one is putting pressure on me to get this much accomplished. There is no manager standing behind me, ordering me to finish this list of “to do’s”. This is all me… (sigh)… I need to learn how to say, “no”; even to myself. I need to realistically look at my day and understand I am not Superwoman. Yes; I could rush around like a mad woman and get all this accomplished (and some days I do), but those days should be few and far between. If I am managing my time well, the days will be full, but not overwhelming.

Most importantly, I need to stop telling myself that the more I do the more I am worth. This is not a competition, even one against myself. Just because an activity could get done today, doesn’t mean it should!! If something comes up at the last-minute, I need to take stock and realistically decide if this can get done; without ending up in the ‘dead zone’.

I hate to admit it (boy, do I hate to admit it), but I do not need to get this much done in one day. If all of my days are filled to the brim with busy-ness (even for a ‘good cause’), I might be missing out on something just as important; those quiet moments with my kids and the ability to just relax.

Before I run myself into the ground, it’s time to slow down. It might just be a short season of our life, but I am tired of being stuck in ‘the dead zone’.

“Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to [His disciples], ‘Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.’”
~ Mark 6:31

📢 Chime In!: Do you ever find yourself overworked to the point that your brain decides to call it quits?

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6 thoughts on “The Dead Zone

  1. Do I ever find myself overworked to that point? Oh, yes. I call it ‘introvert overload’ and when it’s really bad I actually feel slightly drunk…the floor tilts, no more coherent thought is possible, and I simply have to stop and get somewhere quiet for a long while.

    Learning to manage myself in a way that doesn’t get to that extreme is a survival skill I learned not so long ago. It came down to the realization that I have nothing at all to give my family when I get so busy I have a physical shut down. And you’re right, there are good bits we miss if we get caught up in too much busy work.

    It’s good to know I’m not the only one who gets so busy it causes a shut down! Excellent reminder to manage ourselves better. 😊

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    • A great question… I believe our society puts too much emphasis on production, focusing on what is visual. Instead, we ought to focus on being morally righteous and just. When we are in-line with God’s will, we will find a true balance between work and rest.

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  2. Oh yeah, I hear ya!

    As homeschoolers I think we tend to try to prove our worth to a society that we are not actually apart of. For some unfathomable reason, full time motherhood is not treasured as it should be. I, too, find myself taking on far too much & stressing myself beyond my coping abilities. I think it’s a case of we all hear, over & over, the complaints of ‘working mothers’ being rushed in this manner & because someone, somewhere, has made this distinction between two different career paths (one inside the family, the other outside) there seems to be a different value placed on each. I can honestly say that my homeschooling motherhood career is a lot harder than my previous corporate one! But I fail to see why I constantly feel like I need to prove it. People are far too quick to judge these days instead of simply accepting that everyone is here on their own unique journey.

    Stop the Glorification of Busy!

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