Have you ever been in a quiet setting and had someone rudely interrupt with a loud comment? I have. I find this highly annoying and equally frustrating. My opposition isn’t necessarily to the comments, but rather to the timing of them. I imagine others might feel the same. And what about the acquaintance who felt the need to point out your growing waist line?
A recent homeschool outing brought this issue front and center for me. I often wonder if people have a lost their “buffer zone”. The little place inside all of us which tells us when something really needs to be said or if we need to restrain ourselves. I wonder why it is certain people don’t seem to recognize when a comment is out-of-place, either by its timing or purely by its existence.
Since these events, it occurs to me that perhaps I need to be taking better stock of my kids’ “buffer zone”. Do they speak at times when it is best to remain quiet? Do they say things which ought not to be said? I would hate to be out somewhere with my children and find myself slinking down in my chair, due to the ridiculous nonsense which just came out of one of their mouths.
I think all of us have moments when, upon reflection, we ask ourselves, “Why did I just say that?” The key is to learn from those situations and not to repeat them. Unfortunately some people not only fail to reassess, but they find this character trait amusing.
Through training and discipleship, we hope to make our children both more self-aware and sensitive to the leading of the Spirit. We try to keep our children conscious of their surroundings and the appropriate decorum therewith. Thankfully, this doesn’t seem to be a frequent occurrence and is often a teaching moment for all of us.
May the Lord continue to do a work in our homes and in our children, continually drawing us closer and making us more like Himself. Through His leading, our heart is to see people as God sees them and to use our lives as a way to reach people for His Kingdom. May we do this through our words, actions, and character.
“Keep a close watch on yourself and on the teaching. Persist in this, for by so doing you will save both yourself and your hearers.”
~ I Timothy 4:16
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