Do You Have a Tribe?

do_you_have_a_tribeDo you have a tight group of friends? A ‘tribe’, if you will. You know, those friends who call you simply to say hello and ask how you’re doing. People who you attend gatherings with and go on occasional field trips. A group who will encourage and edify. A tribe.

As a family, I would say our tribe starts here. We might seem small, but we are strong in Christ. From our inner circle, extends outer rings which add to our lives. Part of our tribe consists of family members, while others are friends. Members of our church and homeschool groups make up a few of the tribes we are proud to call ours.

While the bulk of our tribe is physically present, able to participate in activities together, we are blessed to have a few online as well. These are friends the Lord has brought into our lives who – even across oceans and continents – are a blessing. We pray for one another, encouraging each other in the roles God has given as Christians, spouses, parents, and homeschoolers. True, these are not common, but the Lord can do wonderful things when we seek Him out.

What is the function of a tribe? To edify, assist, and encourage. We look out for each other. We inspire one another to seek righteousness. We learn from each other, help one another, and lift one another before God.

Our tribe has not always been as large as it is now. At times, it felt as if our family and a very small group of friends were the entirety of our circles. And that’s okay. Perhaps you’re there now? Don’t be discouraged. The Lord has you here for a reason. When the time is right, the Lord will increase your tribe and have new lessons for you to learn. Until then, be prayerful in your desires and rejoice in where you are. Having a larger tribe increases fun, but it also increases responsibility and activity. And in harsh circumstances, drama. Times of quiet refresh the soul and prepare us for more.

Don’t be surprised if, on occasion, the Lord changes the dynamic of your tribe. (I think He likes to keep us on our toes.) At times the tribe will decrease, other times it will evolve in nature. On occasion, the Lord will have you step back from everything and regroup as a family. Keep Christ as your center and you can trust any change to be for the better.

As we struggle through our day-to-day activities, it helps knowing we have someone to share this journey with. May the Lord give us wisdom in selecting our friendships with care and grace to cultivate edifying relationships. And may we seek to be the iron which sharpens those we’re blessed to call family and friend.

“Iron sharpens iron, So one man sharpens another.”
~ Proverbs 27:17

📢 Chime In!: What about your tribe inspires and helps you to be a better homeschool teacher/parent?

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9 thoughts on “Do You Have a Tribe?

  1. Thanks for helping me think about those who are loyal to the life they see in me. Lately, my most active “follower” has been not a friend; an Absalom. However, as you have predicted, that dynamic probably is about to change. I thank God for those who have helped me survive this go round. 🙂

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  2. This reminds me of Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

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  3. What about my tribe inspires me? Small victories and unexpected ones. We are small. Have very little encouragement from those that surround us, and still find some direct opposition to the fact that we still choose to homeschool. If we see a need, we either have to ask – which only brings doubts about our chosen path – or go to God with it. End result: we always take it to God, and only then seek ways to include family in the homeschool process, which has worked out well. None of our immediate tribe has ever offered to pray, support or lend a hand. Then there is the stigma (dare I says suspicion?) associated with dad being the primary home educator. It doesn’t matter that I worked my tail off for over a decade cementing myself in a career and then later worked just as hard to pin down a double degree. Of course, the larger amount of this “conflict” has now been squashed because God has justified His call on us over and over again. What opposition or conflict there was, is now only whispered behind our backs. That’s the culture.Some will understand it, others will step back and deride it. That’s the way of obedience and disobedience. It’s understandable, so we move towards a position that stands firm in Christ’s forgiveness. We learn to move through it, in His strength, onto greater things. So, it’s the small victories and the unexpected ones. They all add up to us being able to give God the full glory, because He steps in, where others either won’t or cannot, and as Abba Father, is faithful to His promise. It’s the impact of seeking first the Kingdom of God – Mt.6:33, not that which comes from the kingdom of man.

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  4. I would honestly say my tribe has changed a lot over the years. It’s been pretty diverse, but because of that diversity, time often caused people to drift in and out of our lives, as time does. I’m actually looking forward to rebuilding our tribe again in the coming years as we reach out to the local homeschooling community.

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