I was flattered, truly. Here was a mama entrusting her daughter to my care, asking me to mentor through the process of becoming engaged and married. Unfortunately, what followed was less mentoring and more a mom looking for me to back her up on everything she said. As my own daughters approach adulthood, these memories come to mind and I find myself asking a few pertinent questions. Does my child need a mentor, and how do I go about getting one?
I am by no means a “young mom” any longer but this doesn’t mean I have it all down or that I don’t need guidance from time-to-time. So today I hope you’ll help me out. Because the truth is my experience with mentors is slim. Slim to none. I grew up in a generation that thought older people had nothing to teach us, and the older generation was fed up with us and left us to our own devices. Even within the church, I confess I’ve never had an older lady mentor me. I wish I had.
I always thought mentors were people the Lord naturally brought into your life. People you admired, respected, and thought could teach you something. It didn’t need to be one person who fit the bill. We could obtain mentors for various aspects of growth and learning. One might show us how to be a better wife, while another seemed to have the parenting thing down. We might respect someone’s business and wish to glean from their wealth of knowledge. What mattered most was that our mentors be wise, patient, willing, and Godly.
So here I stand. – Okay, sit. – Wondering what your thoughts are on helping our children find appropriate mentors….
- Did you have a mentor growing up?
- If so, how did you find your mentor?
- Do you consider your parents mentors?
- Do you have a mentor now?
- Did you approach your mentor, seeking them out, or did the Lord naturally bring you together?
- Do you feel your children need outside mentors? (Assuming they look to you first.)
- Have your growing children expressed a desire for a mentor or naturally found one?
- How can we facilitate Biblical mentoring for our children?
- Is it our responsibility to find our children a mentor or their own?
- What should we be looking for in a good mentor?
- Should our mentors be older than we are, or merely more experienced?
There are so many fascinating aspects to this discussion, and we look forward to hearing all your helpful thoughts. While it’s obvious we don’t have all the answers to this topic, we’re confident in this… God knows what our children need even more than we do, and will provide if only we ask.
“Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.”
Your Turn!: Please share your thoughts on this topic, and help others who are seeking answers!