Conquering the Wandering Mind

Conquering_Wandering_MindsI’ve called his name four times now, hands waving before his book work. The boy is smart. He could complete this lesson in two minutes flat – if only I could divert his attention to his work. He comes back to the present only for a moment before returning to his imaginings. With each ticking of the clock, I wonder what I’m doing wrong and how I can help my child conquer this challenge.

Understandably, this situation is just as frustrating for our son as it is for me. Being the last one to finish lessons, and constantly having to hear your name is irritating. We’re doing our best to work through this struggle together and learn keys to succeed in this area. Diet, exercise, routine, and using essential oils is helping. How we homeschool has been reviewed as well. Less independent work is in order; being replaced with one-on-one lessons with a parent sitting close at hand verbally offering encouragement.

Do any of your children battle this on a daily basis? We’d love to hear your thoughts regarding this area of homeschooling!

  • Are there clear symptoms of when your child’s mind has gone wandering?
  • What helps you remain calm and help meet your child’s need when this becomes a daily/hourly concern?
  • Have you identified the cause of their distraction? How have you done this?
  • Do foods affect your child’s focus?
  • Will routine and/or exercise help focus increase?
  • Do you find this more prevalent in your sons than daughters?
  • What helps your child to better focus?
  • Are there essential oils you’re using to help your child focus?

We have by no means conquered this challenge. There are days we cruise through without any difficulty, and days when keeping eyes on the page leads to anger. Through God’s grace we’re moving forward, learning what works for his body and mind. Amidst the frustration, it helps to remember this not personal or purposeful. Our son is not being rebellious, his mind is merely occupied elsewhere. Together we’re discovering fun, meaningful ways to redirect his attention to the present and offering grace when a momentary whim takes his mind on a journey elsewhere.

There is beauty to be found in these moments, even those taken in the imagination. May we have patience to find it, wisdom to see learning opportunity everywhere, and gentleness in leading our children through daily responsibility.

“That the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give to you a spirit of wisdom and of revelation in the knowledge of Him. I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened, so that you will know what is the hope of His calling, what are the riches of the glory of His inheritance in the saints,…”
~ Ephesians 1:17-18

Your Turn!: That’s quite a list of questions we’ve asked… Don’t feel as if you need to answer every one. Pick one which resonates with you, or one in which you’ve seen growth, and share with us!

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11 thoughts on “Conquering the Wandering Mind

  1. We have two like this so far. It requires a lot of 1 on 1. It’s really hard. We have opted for medication some of the time because the lack of attention was preventing our son who was super smart from progressing. He responded really well to the medication and only has a few side effects which doesnt happen for everyone. As he has gotten older he is doing much better. We do a lot of supplements. I don’t have time to attach the links right now but will come back later and see if I can. I am always trying to see if we can get him off the medication but we cannot right now. I don’t see many blogs where they discuss just how hard and difficult this is on the parents. It is even harder when you homeschool but it is totally worth it.

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  2. Our son definitely struggles with this. He is very intelligent, but break out those worksheets and oh boy! The frustrating thing for me is that I know he could do the work in about five minutes flat…if he just concentrated:) I am working on being more patient and accepting that he needs a distraction free environment in order to focus better. (Which is difficult with six children in the house!) I will allow him to complete his worksheets in the bedroom which works “most” of the time. In terms of reading, it also works better for him if we can do his reading in a room away from the others. Slowly but surely we will continue to make progress! I would love to hear what other people do in terms of essential oils and other natural means. What kinds of exercise helps? Our kids are pretty active so I’m just wondering what I could try to help him out a little:)

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    • We use Vetiver for focus. It smells lovely and helps a great deal. We’re also learning to control dietary intake; carbs and high sugars do not help. Exercise is key; pop-ups, running, and the like. One thing I’ve noticed is that he needs to be fully engaged in the learning – he needs to do it himself. We cannot read TO HIM; he needs to read himself, watch movies; be hands-on. The minute we leave him to his own studying or we attempt to “help” him by walking him through it ourselves, he tunes out. So I sit with him and we walk through it together, but he needs to do all the work.

      My son is VERY high energy so we have to take quite a few breaks for exercise. But we are learning to make it work for him so he understands he is not a poor student, he just functions differently.

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  3. I have three daughters and one son. It was my eldest who got foggy at times. She’s nearly graduated now. But I still think that some element of that ‘fogging’ was sheer wilfulness that she didn’t want to do what she didn’t want to do. Free spirited. It took us years YEARS TO ACCEPT THIS. And we don’t particularly enjoy that. But we also see that trying to counter it has been a losing battle. For us.

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  4. I live in the land of essential oils, nutritional yeast, prescribed marijuana and all things herbal, and though I grow essential oils, I am a skeptic as to their wonder effects. But I like them.


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