Two Shall Be One

The following is an excerpt from our ‘Homeschooling 101’ series, written to help encourage families who are new to the world of home education. We pray this post blesses you and reminds each of us that homeschooling is a family endeavor, not something ‘mommy does with the kids’. 


two_shall_be_oneGenerally speaking, most of us mommies do the teaching in our homes. We pick the curriculum, we pick the method by which we teach, we decide which activities we will be involved in, and we do all the instructing. Does anyone see a problem with this scenario? Where is father in all of this? Shouldn’t he have a say in the education of his children?

A piece of advice I try to give new homeschooling families is include pop in your homeschooling. While dad might need to work all day, not being available to do actual instructing, there are many ways in which he can still be an active part of your children’s education:

  • He can pray for his family.
  • He can offer advice on which curriculum should be chosen.
  • He can discuss what the children learned at the end of each day.
  • He can be a sounding board for ideas.
  • If available, he can teach classes.

When we first began homeschooling, my husband was a great sounding board for ideas. Everything that came to my attention we discussed together. How did he think we should homeschool; do we use a classical method, an unschooling approach, or should we be eclectic? What should be the focus of our learning? He was instrumental in helping us to narrow down the goals of our family’s learning.


At the beginning of each year, I make a point of discussing everything with my husband. We talk about any new changes, new directions, new goals, and new ideas we’d like to try out. During these discussions, he makes a point of letting me know how he’d like to be involved in our children’s learning. This year he is participating in PE and helping with government/economics.

Sometimes we talk about things as they come up, others at the end of the night. The most fun way to have our conversations? A date night! We make a special coffee date and together plan out the coming year for our family.

Knowing my husband is 100% behind what we do gives me great peace of mind. I am not in this alone, I am not doing this on my own strength. We are in this together for the long haul, raising and training our children. If you don’t already, consider making your husband an active part of your homeschooling. No matter how “small” the contribution, it will be well worth the effort.

“AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH; so they are no longer two, but one flesh.”
~ Mark 10:8

Your Turn!: How do you encourage your husband to participate in the homeschooling of your children?

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6 thoughts on “Two Shall Be One

  1. Like you, my husband is a wonderful sounding board. Also, in any one day we have three options for school – “morning school”, “afternoon school”, and “night school”. We truly try to get everything done in the morning and afternoon times, but we all know that life shows up. So if things don’t get finished we shift it to “Night School”, which the kids love because they get Daddy’s help. Sometimes we choose to leave a specific topic for “night school” because I know that my husband has the better understanding.

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  2. At the beginning, I was definitely the instigator to homeschooling. He was always generally behind it as he didn’t find his elementary to high school education all that enticing. But somewhere along the way, he bought in as much as me. He has his own professional world, which he heartily shares with us, but he’s in a continuous stream of engaging and educating the kids. He’s also engaged in economics and politics, sports and broadway theatre, chess and logic, math and history. He’s the math go-to guy after gr 8-gr.9, and Canadian history 101 with high school kids.

    It is a full, sometimes intense decade of homeschool family life. But we’re both 100% bought in.

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  3. This is one of the most important aspects of homeschooling. Even if one cannot actively participate, there are other ways to be involved as you have mentioned. For me, I was just an ear, another adult to talk to, and the full supporter of homeschooling. Early on, I just continued on as a Dad but as the children got older, I was able to teach Math or be the substitute teacher when needed. If there is one thing I am most proud of it would be the emotional support I provided. Sometimes that is all someone wants and needs that day.

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