Taking on the World, One Argument at a Time


So often when I read anti-homeschooling posts or articles, my first inclination is to write back and share “my side” of the story. However, I’ve come to realize, were I to attempt to respond to every argument I come in contact with, I would quickly become a ball of frustration and more than likely be wasting my time. While some arguments are worth the having, others are simply pointless. Are there guidelines one could follow, to know whether or not a debate is profitable?

Talking with my husband and homeschooling dad extraordinaire, here are a few things he suggests I keep in mind…

Debate when you have the opportunity to make an impact. Do not argue simply to hear your own voice, but to change the way another might view the situation. While your words might not have an immediate effect, it might be the seed to bring about a future change. If there is no chance they will listen, keep still.

Debate when you have the opportunity to influence a third-party. While you might not sway the person whom you are debating, perhaps there is another listener who might benefit from the exchange. For their sake, the argument is worth the having.

There are times in which it is beneficial to state our case, perhaps enlightening another with information of which they are unaware. However, there are times in which it is best to simply remain silent. While it might be fun “taking on the world”, it simply isn’t feasible. Not only do we lack the time to argue with everyone, but very often, it isn’t worth the effort.

Our time here is limited. We need to focus our attentions on the areas in which we can bring about a change and leave the nay-sayers to themselves. When the Lord opens the doors of communication, we should walk through them with courage and willingness. However, when someone wishes to argue for the sake of arguing, it’s time to shake the dust from our feet and move along.

“But in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect, having a good conscience, so that, when you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ may be put to shame.”
~ I Peter 3:15-16

We’d love to know… How do you know when to debate and when to walk away?

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7 thoughts on “Taking on the World, One Argument at a Time

  1. I definitely like the layout of your husband’s suggestions. I’ve gained a new prospective from this post today. Lately it’s been my prayer that the Lord will teach me when to remain silent and when to speak up. Like Queen Esther, I believe he will. I am still learning. And I have to say, its not easy. I honestly would like to speak up about a matter more than remaining quiet, but in this I am learning to mediate and be brought to a deeper level of understanding. Thank you for the post.

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  2. You (and your husband) definitely make some great points. I think it’s important also to ask ourselves why we feel the need to debate? In other words, are we trying to help or just prove ourselves right? Secondly, we must connect with the other person first if we want heard. That means we need to truly hear them and show them we have truly heard them. Otherwise what we have to say will go on deaf ears and rightly so.

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  3. I’ve often debated in my own mind when I need to speak up and when I shouldn’t. I have gained much of the same advice that your husband gave to you from my husband as well. Thankful for their wisdom!

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