When Life Throws a Curve Ball

When Life Throws a Curve BallI want routine. I like having a life plan and sticking to it as much as possible. Things just seem to flow much smoother when there is direction. On occasion, God has other plans. Every once in a while, He likes to throw me a curve ball and teach me something new.

It’s frustrating, isn’t it; to be in the middle of a well-run morning of learning, only to be stopped by sudden chaos?  Sometimes we don’t even have the opportunity of getting our day started; from the moment our eyes open, the day is already off course.

How do we deal with life’s wicked curve balls and stay focused on what’s important? How do we choose whether the detour warrants our attention or if this is a distraction to be swept aside?

Prayer – Before we do anything, we need to stop and pray! If we try tackling difficulties completely on our own, we are setting ourselves up for failure. Take a quick moment to pray, breathe, and ask for wisdom in dealing with the situation.

Evaluation – When side swiped by one of life’s problems, the next logical step would be to critique the issue. Is this something which really warrants my time or can this wait? This begs the question, though. What does warrant my time?

  • Character Training – If my kiddos are getting out of hand or being rebellious, lessons need to take a backseat. Discipleship and training need to be dealt with before my children are ready to learn.
  • Family Concerns – I do not answer our phone while we are schooling. I find this distracts my kids and throws me off track. I do look at who is calling though. The only people I answer for are immediate family. (Mostly, because I know they would only be calling at this time if it was important. They know we do most of our learning in the morning.) If they call and it’s urgent, everything else stops and we meet our family’s needs.
  • Better Lessons – Sometimes life’s curve balls have valuable lessons for our kids to learn by. If they would gain more from being ‘side tracked’ than by doing our original lesson, so be it!
  • Limited Opportunities – Every once in a while, we will get a call from a friend or family member who has an amazing opportunity to share with us, but it has to be taken advantage of right now. (Disney on Ice for free!!) When these special events pop up, we jump at the chance to participate.
  • Emergencies – This goes without saying, but, if emergencies arise, all else stops. This doesn’t happen very often, thank the Lord, but on occasion it does.

We also need to evaluate whether this is really an issue or an attack! On occasion, curve balls aren’t lessons in hiding, but a battle which needs to be fought to stay on track. Are we going to allow ourselves to be derailed and a day lost? We need to be able to identify between a genuine concern, an opportunity, and a distraction from what’s important.

Movement – After assessing the circumstances and determining our plan of attack, the next step is easy: move! We need to avoid wallowing in despair over lessons left undone. Don’t allow irritation, frustration, and anxiety to take over. All of these things distract from the new lessons to be learned and us pursuing our new goal. Instead of focusing on what wasn’t, focus on what needs to happen.

Recovery – Okay, so we’ve handled the curve ball. We made it through our detour and have to pick up the pieces we left behind. Now, there are choices to be made.

  • Forget It – Is the lesson you left behind really worth worrying about? Will it matter if you don’t do it? Some lessons and activities can be abandoned; decide if this is one and let it go.
  • Do It – While I am perfectly okay with letting things like coloring go to the wayside, abandoned; there are a few which cannot be avoided. If we had to skip something I knew was important to my kids or vital to the lesson, we reschedule it for later in the week or at the most convenient time.
  • Reduce It – Sometimes I compromise. There may be portions of a lesson I really need my children to cover, but other portions which I could easily gloss over. If it comes down to it, what I will do is reduce the amount we go back and cover. (e.g. Instead of giving my children the entire math lesson they missed, I might only have them do the work which is new to them; skipping the review sections.)

God likes to keep us on our toes, doesn’t He? He likes to give us plenty of opportunity to practice our patience, to use wisdom, and to model this for our children. When life throws us a curve ball, we need to find the exact spot to focus our strength and then attack with all our might.

“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.”
~ Romans 8:28

Your Turn!: How do you deal with life’s little detours?

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If You Give a Homeschool Mom an Idea

If You Give a Homeschool Mom an IdeaFor the sake of silliness, and all things homeschool… This idea has been stuck in my head for weeks. I thought it was time to finally put fingers to keyboard.

If You Give a Homeschool Mom
An Idea

If you give a homeschool mom an idea,
She’s going to want to do some research.

Once she sets off to research,
She’ll start stressing over what she’s missed.

Because she’s stressed,
She will feel the need to pray.

After God calms her heart,
She’ll want to resume her mission.

Once she’s finished making multiple lists,
She’ll want to get started right away.

To get started,
She’ll need to check her supply cupboard.

Upon looking in her cupboard,
She’ll notice she needs to make a run to the craft store.

Since she’s going to the craft store,
The kids will want to tag along.

On the way to the store,
Mom will recall a book she can incorporate into her lesson.

To get the book,
She will need to stop at the library.

At the library,
The kids will want to check out more books.

With the kids busy perusing reads,
Mom will start jotting down notes for complimentary studies.

Since she’s on her device,
She’ll look at her clock.

Before the day gets away from her,
She’ll rush the kids through checking out.

As she’s checking out,
The kids will be reminded they’re headed to the craft store.

While at the store,
The children will remember they’re out of clay.

Five hundred dollars later,
The family will realize they’re hungry.

After feeding her clan and cleaning the mess,
Mom will want to sit down and put a plan in place.

While checking her email,
She’ll notice a helpful friend sent over an idea.

She’ll read her helpful friend’s idea,
And then she’ll want to do some research.

Silly, but entirely true for this mama. Just when I think I’ve got things on a roll, we come across another spectacular idea I’d like to put into place. There will always be something more to do, a new fact to be learned, and another idea for teaching. I could literally run in circles all day doing nothing but establishing routines and setting about plans.

While the poem is intended to be funny and cute, the truth is I could easily get lost in all the to-dos and fail to simply enjoy the here-and-now. I pray this would not be so.

May the Lord give us wisdom to move forward with new ideas only when He is directing us. May we have ears to hear, hearts to listen, and peace to go forward. May we choose our “Yeses” carefully, and learn to say “No” when needed. May we be able to laugh and enjoy each day for the memories it brings; no matter how crazy they get.

“Go, eat your food with gladness, and drink your wine with a joyful heart, for God has already approved what you do.”
~ Ecclesiastes 9:7

Your Turn!: Okay… Your turn! “If you give a homeschool parent an idea….”

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Review: By the Way Book Series, Washington ~ Here We Come!

By the Way Book Series ReviewWe’ve never visited the state of Washington. Have you? For those of us who live too far away or extended vacations aren’t currently an option, we’ve got the next best thing. Our recent review of By the Way Book Series, Washington ~ Here We Come revealed you don’t have to leave home to explore God’s creation and learn about a fabulous US state.

By the Way Book Series is an informative collection of reads sharing fun facts about several US states and encouraging discovery of Biblical truth in everyday life. We had the opportunity to review Washington ~ Here We Come, our son’s first book choice. (Closely followed by Florida’s Treasure Coast ~ Here We Come, which we’ll have to visit soon!)

After perusing our choice of books, we anxiously watched our mailbox for our read to arrive. Our son was excited to receive his package and when it showed was thoroughly impressed with the quality of the book. The illustrations and images are well laid out, with plenty to learn amongst its pages.

Washington ~ Here We Come follows Alex, Lexi, Miss Cindy (their bus driver), and other team members as they discover the state of Washington and the heritage of that region. Together we explore such sights as Washington’s firsts, Olympia National Park, Ruby Beach, Quinault Rain Forest, and more. At each stop, we learn about the flora, fauna, and history of the area.

Our goal was to use Washington ~ Here We Come as our bedtime read, a quiet moment together where we read one-on-one. We started immediately, reading several pages aloud each night. We were not in a hurry to rush through the pages, instead choosing to fully absorb the text and open discussion before moving forward.

Washington ~ Here We Come was a fun read. We enjoyed learning about creatures such as the Banana slug which can reach lengths of up to twelve inches. (Imagine me shivering while my son giggles uproariously.) We read about Sitka trees used to make airplane frames in WWI. Native American history was explored, reminding us forty-two tribes still live in Washington today. As a parent, I truly appreciated By the Way subtly pointing my son to God. Each section spotlights God’s creation, His provision throughout history, and His goodness without losing focus of the immediate lesson.

There was much to cover. So much so, we will more than like be re-reading By the Way several times more before fully absorbing its contents. In fact, we could see how each By the Way adventure could easily be adapted into smaller studies in both science and history, prompting a world of discovery.

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Homeschool Informational Seminar

School LogoDuring the coming month of March, our church, homeschool group, and family have the unique opportunity of reaching out to the surrounding area and assisting them in a newfound adventure called homeschooling. That’s right, we’re hosting CHEA of California’s Homeschool Informational Seminar, and we’re please as punch!

What is a homeschool informational seminar? Pretty much how it sounds. A gathering of homeschool veterans along with homeschool newbies and homeschool wish to be’s. Together, we’ll discuss the adventure and calling of homeschooling, encouraging one another to seek the heart of Christ in our parenting and children’s educations.

How can you help? I’m so glad you asked!

Pray – Please, please, please pray for this event. (And all events like this one hosted around the world!) Pray the Lord would bring families who need to hear and be encouraged. Pray we meet them where they are and are edified before our Father. Pray new families would be blessed and have questions answered. Please pray for those who will be speaking at this event, both the guest speaker and panelists (us included), that the Lord would give us His words to speak and His heart to reach these families.

Encourage – If you know someone who might benefit from this event, and lives in Southern California, please encourage them to attend. Our desire is to help families overcome questions and doubts they may be facing regarding homeschooling. The entire event is free, including a continental breakfast and special treats. We’re praying the Lord would bring all who have need.

If you’re living in Southern California, or just here on a visit, stop in and say hello! We’d love to give you a hug, welcome you to the adventure of homeschooling, and buy you a cup of coffee. Most importantly, we want to pray with you and help you understand you’re not in this alone. In Christ, we walk this path together.

“For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.”
~ Ecclesiastes 4:10

Your Turn!: How are you showing support for local homeschool families?

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Our February Reads

February Reads (2017)

This was the month of love, and we’re loving us some books. In February, we explored a world of literature and did some learning along the way. Join us as we share our favorite picks of the month.

  1. Armstrong: The Adventurous Journey of a Mouse to the Moon (Torben Kuhlmann) – A long time ago a mouse learned to fly . . . and crossed the Atlantic. But what happened next?…
    I know we shouldn’t judge a book by its cover. But when the cover is this cute, you just have to pick it up! The pages inside? They only get better. Cute beyond words; this is on my growing ‘wish list’ of books to buy.
  2. Pen Pals (Alexandra Pichard) – An octopus and an ant are paired up to write letters for a school project in this charming picture book.
    Absolutely adorable! My son thought this was the sweetest book and read it multiple times. In honor of our own pen pals, this book was added to our stack and thoroughly enjoyed.
  3. Design Wise (Vern Yip) – Have you ever wondered exactly how high to hang your artwork? How about the light fixture over your dining table? Trusted designer Vern Yip answers these questions, and more, by revealing the right formulas and measurements that can make any room feel just “right.”
    Interior design is a hobby of mine. Perhaps it has to do with my organizational nature; who knows. This book intrigued me, what with all the formulas for amazing rooms, and it didn’t disappoint. Design Wise is a perfect handbook.
  4. See America, A Celebration of Our National Parks & Treasured Sites – Just in time for the 2016 centennial anniversary of the National Parks Service, the Creative Action Network has partnered with the National Parks Conservation Association to revive and re-imagine the historical legacy of WPA travel posters.
    This was another book cover which caught my eye. We enjoyed exploring the pages within and seeing the creativity each poster offered. The artistry and imagination of each illustrator is incredible. Pages include details on the national park listed, which was fun to learn. This is another book added to my ‘wish list’. 
  5. You Will Not Have My Hate (Antoine Leiris) – One night last winter, Antoine Leiris was at home looking after his son while his wife, Hélène, was at a concert with friends… That night Hélène was killed, along with 88 other people, at the Bataclan Theatre.
    A touching read. You Will Not Have My Hate is an honest retelling of one man’s struggle with the murder of his wife, and the aftermath of raising his son in a world which offered him pity. Told in journal form, this was a quick read, but one worth the undertaking.
  6. The Wild Robot (Peter Brown) – When robot Roz opens her eyes for the first time, she discovers that she is alone on a remote, wild island. Why is she there? Where did she come from? And, most important, how will she survive in her harsh surroundings?
    I’ll be honest, this book was nothing like I expected. I was anticipating adventure and mystery. Instead, we received a shipwrecked robot’s perspective of nature on the island she is marooned. The story is slow-moving, if you’re looking for action, yet there is so much to gain from this book. For the homeschooler, each chapter offers mini-lessons one could easily adapt to nature studies. 
  7. Pax (Sara Pennypacker) – This is the story of Peter, Pax, and their independent struggles to return to one another against all odds. Told from the alternating viewpoints of Peter and Pax.
    This book came highly recommended. The story is about Peter, a boy, and his pet fox, Pax, who are separated by the boy’s stern father and desperate to find one another again. Parents might wish to read this story before handing it to younger children; death, the violence of war, and other issues are discussed within. Despite the heaviness of several passages, this is a lovely book and one worth reading. 

Plenty of book love going on over here. This month’s list proves you’re never to old to appreciate a great picture book and nature books are making a strong come back.

p.s. If your interested in learning more about the See America Project, give them a look!

Your Turn!: What is your favorite picture book of all time?

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Don’t Talk About Me! (Discussing Our Children With Others)

Don't Talk About Me!It’s amazing how our children cannot hear us when we’re standing right next to them, talking in their ear. But, somehow, through a noisy room, their ears perk up when mom mentions their name. They give us that look, and we know what it means. “Is this good or bad?” Perhaps, it might even be, “Please, don’t talk about me.”

Truth be told, we all have hard days. Whether it be a struggle with parenting or a homeschooling concern we’re dealing with, some days are just plain difficult. Maybe it isn’t just days. It might be weeks or months. When we finally have an opportunity to fellowship with friends, we let it all out. It felt so good to get that off our chest. It felt good to us. But what about those little ears listening across the room?

Understanding the Boundaries of Family – Are there things we’d prefer not be discussed outside the family? Maybe my husband only wants certain issues shared with him, and we can tackle these concerns together. Before I go to the “village”, I need to understand what is permissible to share and what is best left at home.

Understanding My Children’s Boundaries – If we enjoy our privacy, shouldn’t we afford our children a little of their own? I don’t wish to damage the relationship I have with my kids by over-sharing struggles they are currently working through. Openly discussing a learning disability with anyone and everyone might put a damper on that or cause them shame. I want to be selective about when and with whom I share.

Being in Prayer – Am I looking for help or an outlet for my frustration? Before I open my mouth, I need to pray about what’s going to come out of it.

Being Selective – There is such a thing as TMI. I can get help with a learning disability or character development without explaining every detail of my child’s issues. I want to leave them with some dignity. It might be enough to simply explain we’re dealing with lying, and ask for prayer.

On this note… Being a blogger, and having a minor presence on social media, I should also point out our need for being selective online. My kids read my blog – crazy, I know – they see what I post and how I address each issue. Generally, I don’t discuss matters which are personal to them and never that which would cause them shame. This goes for ALL medium.

Being Gentle & Kind – How I speak will determine how people see my children, and my parenting. Will I leave them with the understanding we’re not perfect, but genuinely seeking the Lord’s will, or an angry mama who can’t stand her kids? I might be frustrated now, but ten minutes from now regret the words I spoke. Gentleness will prevent harsh words.

Being Positive – This isn’t an opportunity to trash talk the kids. (Even if you’re positive they’re being ridiculous.) If we need help, I definitely should speak with a councilor or close friend. However, this isn’t time to complain. It’s time to get answers and be honest with where we might need improvement.

May the mediations of my heart be pleasing to the Lord, and the words of my mouth be edifying to the hearer. May I speak from a humble heart and listen with the intent to grow. And may my children learn God’s love towards others by how I love them.

I need to remember little eyes are watching. If I’m not careful, our children will pick up bad habits and begin to repeat my mistakes. And, really, what parent wants to hear their child trash talk them?

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”
~ Ephesians 4:29

Your Turn!: Here’s a question… Do you feel comfortable sharing photos of your children online?

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Review: HISTORY Through the Ages Project Passport World History Study, The Middle Ages

Review: Home School in the WoodsCan you believe we’ve never tried lap booking before? Amazing! Which is why we were incredibly excited to review HISTORY Through the Ages Project Passport World History Study: The Middle Ages by Home School in the Woods and see what all the buzz is about.

HISTORY Through the Ages Project Passport World History Study makes learning fun and hands-on. Each project passport comes with just about everything you need to get started on your adventure.

We downloaded a digital copy of The Middle Ages which consists of itineraries for our passport, images to complete all portions of the project, and MP3’s for audio sections of our study. Our Middle Ages adventure began with a digital unboxing of all our goodies. The Middle Ages contains multitudes of activities such as “Scrapbook of Sights”, Lap Booking, Snapshot Moments, Postcards, Timelines, Audio Tours, Music, Hands-On and 3D activities, a newspaper, games, and edible projects.

We usually study history as a family, using Middle Ages was no exception. We decided to complete five of the twenty-five lessons per week, which would finish the project passport in five weeks; coinciding with our established routine. Each day we progressed through Middle Ages PostcardsMiddle Ages itineraries, excitedly completing the fun hands-on activities such as making our own rosewater and sugar-cube castles. We read postcards from famous historical people. Every day we added more sections to our lap books.

We found the lap book involved a large quantity of printing, cutting, and assembly. This was not an issue with our three older children (ages 12 and up). However, younger children might need assistance with cutting and completing certain portions of the lap book. The lessons included are fitting for students of any age.

Progressing through Middle Ages was simple, straightforward, and fun. The children looked forward to our daily lessons, and enjoyed the many activities included in the project passport. Mom appreciated the variety of options to choose from, understanding not all were expected to be completed or necessary to appreciate the passport. The daily itineraries were excellent and we discovered how fun lap books can be!

After completing our Middle Ages project, we did a little research of our own. Suffice it to say, you will not find another company who does as excellent a job as Home School in the Woods when it comes to project passports and lap books. Their resources are top of the ProjectPassportline, and incredibly affordable. We very much enjoyed reviewing Middle Ages, and look forward to exploring further passports available through Home School in the Woods.

Okay, so now we have done lap booking. This is definitely something new. For all of you who do lap booking on a regular basis, you have our utmost respect. It was lots of fun and we enjoyed trying something new.

If you’d like to learn more about HISTORY Through the Ages Project Passport World History Study (including their current release, Ancient Greece, and their upcoming passport, Ancient Rome, coming 2018), please visit them at their website Home School in the Woods and on FacebookTwitterPinterest and Google+. To read helpful reviews like this one, and gain more insight into what Home School in the Woods has to offer, please visit The Homeschool Review Crew!

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Book Review: Beyond the Tiger Mom

“This book’s thesis is that Western and Eastern parenting philosophies have vastly different strengths and weaknesses; therefore, parents on either side of the world can learn from each other…”
(Maya Thiagarajan, Beyond the Tiger Mom)

Beyond the Tiger MomBook Review: Beyond the Tiger Mom by Maya Thiagarajan is an intriguing, thoughtful book. Ms. Thiagarajan invites us into her world, giving us glimpses of her global experiences in education and parenting. She shares with us lessons learned both academically and experientially, sharing tips for putting the best of both worlds into practice.

Beyond the Tiger Mom consists of three sections: Academics, Achieving Balance, and Myth, Media & Metaphor. Chapters cover topics such as “Why Are All the Asian Kids on the Math Team?”, “Raising Readers”, “Memorization, Practice, Exams, and Other Things Asians Love”, and more. Each chapter closes with a handy “Tips for Parents” section, to help families apply concepts covered in the previous pages.

We found Beyond the Tiger Mom interesting and informative. We appreciated reading of Ms. Thiagarajan’s personal experiences and her interviews with Asian parents. Each chapter covered key concepts of learning, giving insight into methods both Western and Eastern parents use regarding this area of development. Ms. Thiagarajan does a wonderful job of clearly identifying strengths and weakness in both cultures while continually encouraging parents to seek the good of the student.

A thoughtful point Ms. Thiagarajan brings forth is the notion of finding balance. As parents/educators, we do not wish to over-stress our students with study so intense our children never have play time, but neither should we take our children’s education so lightly they do not take study seriously.

While learning disabilities were briefly mentioned, and confirmed, in her book, we would enjoy reading more on this topic. It would be nice to have a better understanding of how other cultures acknowledge and work through these challenges in education.

We were encouraged by reading Beyond the Tiger Mom! Whenever we take on a book specifically relating to education, it’s possible to find areas of study we’ve glossed over. Instead, we found much to confirm we’re not only on the right track, but already implementing the ideals put forth.

This was an enjoyable read with much to ponder. We appreciated learning about Eastern culture and their parental perspective on child rearing, and discovering their viewpoint on Westerners. The “Tips for Parents” portion of each chapter are a great check for those looking to fill in any gaps in their child’s development.

As Ms. Thiagarajan pointed out, childhood should have balance. May we be inspired and encouraged to seek the Lord to find the right fit for our children. Only in Him will balance be found, enabling us to not only reach our littles academically, but in leading them to Christ.

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Your Turn!: Consider this statistic… “The well-publicized study titled ‘Early Warning Confirmed‘ by the Annie E. Casey Foundation,… third grade as a particularly important year. If a child is strong in reading and math in third grade, then he will do well throughout school.” We’d love to hear your thoughts on training up children early!

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When Pop Comes Home

When Pop Comes HomeI frequently read lovely posts about preparing for Daddy’s arrival back home at the end of each day. The ladies might perhaps put on a pretty blouse, touch up their makeup, and spritz themselves with perfume. Moms are wonderful about making sure the house is straightened up, the kids are in decent order, and dinner is just about finished. I wonder though, what do those women do whose husbands are home all day?!

I find myself in this predicament and often wonder how many other women are in the same boat. My husband, generally speaking, works at home. There is no touching up makeup before he gets in the door, there is no sprucing up the house, or cleaning up of kids; he sees it all.

While we are together the bulk of every day, I would like to think there are a few things I can still do to bless him. They might not be astounding, but every little bit helps!

I make sure we are groomed. This might seem silly to some ladies; I mean sweats are clothes, right? While my husband doesn’t mind what I wear, I still prefer to get up before everyone else and get dressed. I put on “street clothes”, no sweats or pajamas. I put on just a little makeup and do my hair. I want my husband to know that I look nice for him, not just when I leave my house. Periodically I will touch up my makeup, as needed, to ensure I keep looking fresh. My kids are also trained to get up, get dressed, and be presentable.

I make sure the house is fairly decent. While messes can’t be avoided, we do try to keep things more livable. We have trained our children to keep their toys to one room or area at a time. This ensures that the mess can be cleaned up fairly quickly and if my husband walks out of his office, he is not overwhelmed by disorder.

I make sure to touch bases. While we might both occupy the same house, that doesn’t mean we are actually communicating. At various times throughout the day, I make sure to pop my head into his office and see if he needs anything. Perhaps he might like some fresh coffee, a snack, or a hug? Near the end of the day, we talk about when he would like dinner and I get busy.

When my husband does leave the house, I try to walk him out and greet him on his return. I want to be the last thing on his mind when he leaves and the first one to welcome him home.

While I don’t have the benefit of preparing our home before Pop’s return at night, I believe we are doing our best to make him feel welcomed and appreciated whenever he steps out of his office.

Your Turn!: How do you prepare for Dad at the end of each work day?

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The Dilemma of Sleeping Children in Parents’ Beds

The Dilemma of Sleeping Children in Parents' BedsFor years, no matter how hard we tried, my son would not sleep through the night in his own bed. Oh, he would start the night out in his own room, but somehow in the middle of the night he always managed to sneak into the room and tuck himself in with his Pop. We tried having him sleep in his sisters’ room, we tried keeping a nightlight on, we tried any number of things. There was no substitution for Pop.

When he was little, it had been suggested that we train (read = paddle) him to stay in his own bed. Helpful friends mentioned we should lock our door. Others were adamant we let him cry it out. My guy and I didn’t care for any of those solutions, however. Sure, any number of them would have worked, but why?

While we weren’t getting as much sleep as we could and there were some nights we were wrestling with our son to stop moving around so much, it was nice to have him close. We only have our children for a short time and we appreciate the closeness they have with us. It would seem a shame to prevent them this brief moment in their lives. It won’t last forever.

While our son no longer sneaks into our room every night, on occasion I will wake to find him sleeping on the floor alongside the bed. It seems something bothered him during the night or he felt lonely and needed our company. He needed comfort and security.

I’m not sure where you’re at right now. Perhaps your littles are still in need of constant attention, and you’re about ready for them to grow out of this stage. Maybe you’re where we are with kiddos who still sneak into the room in the middle of the night. You might even be ‘done’ with these foundational years of parenting, with children grown and ready to move out. No matter where we are, may we learn to embrace each moment and rejoice in its gift. For a gift it is, indeed.

And, hey, we can sleep when they’re older, right?

“And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse.”
~ Malachi 4:6

Your Turn!: Do your children sneak into bed with you?

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