Have Patience

“Patience is not simply the ability to wait – it’s how we behave while we’re waiting. ”
~ Joyce Meyer

Have_PatienceI have often noticed that when my internal thermostat is not where it is supposed to be, the reason usually lies with impatience. The job wasn’t done fast enough, activities weren’t completed correctly, or someone didn’t listen the first time. While it would be easy to blame my circumstances for my impatience and not take responsibility, the fact is I am to blame. I am the one who has allowed myself to get to this point and I need to have patience.

It would probably be best if I learned to recognize what is affecting me and then take action. Generally, my impatience falls into four categories:

I am running out of time: It often happens that when I cut myself short on time, I start to panic and become impatient. Where did the time go? Why didn’t we get out of here faster?
I have learned over the years to plan well, making sure to give myself extra time just in case there are unforeseen circumstances.

Something didn’t get done correctly: I wish I could say that whenever my kids make a mistake, I gently correct them and show them the proper way to do things. However, that would not be true. I find I get impatient when I have to show them, time and time and time again, how something needs to be done.
The Lord is continually working in this area. How often has He had to show me something, over and over and over again? I am getting better, but at times impatience still creeps in.

Someone isn’t listening to instructions: This one is the hardest for me. I dislike having my children disregard me or not follow through with something given to them. If I ask them to do something, I like it done right away. If I tell them something needs to get done, I don’t want to be given an argument.
I have come to realize when my kids aren’t listening, the fault is mine! I need to be better training them to listen and obey. I also need to make sure they hear my instructions clearly and understand my intentions. With work and time, it will get better.

My pride has been hurt: I think pride is the root of the problem! My pride is a sensitive thing and when my pride is pricked, I get impatient. How dare they not listen to me? How dare they drag their feet or not do it right the first time? After all, didn’t I show them the right way to do it? Why can’t they just do what I want?
I need to learn to take a step back and think things through. Very often, my kids aren’t trying to be disobedient, I have just set my expectations too high. It isn’t their fault when I haven’t planned out our day well or there are unexpected delays. I also need to remember they are young and still learning. In time, they will do things correctly the first time and not need as much instruction. They will come to listen and obey, when they are trained to do so.

I remember hearing once, that if you ask the Lord to give you patience, He will often bring you trials by which to learn it. Why am I then so often surprised when He gives me daily opportunities to grow? I pray as I get older and mature in the Lord, I will better develop patience. That as I learn, I will be teaching my children by example.

Whether it is chores, homeschooling, relationships, or work, patience is a virtue we cannot do without. Knowing my own limits and working through them, will help me to better get a handle on my patience.

“Love is patient and kind;…”
~ I Corinthians 13:4

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I Can’t Homeschool: I Lack Self Control

i_cant_homeschoolEncouragement for families unsure of the adventure called homeschooling.

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Homeschooling can seem like a daunting journey, especially for those who are new to the concept. We are unsure of where to start, overwhelmed by the notion of taking on our children’s education, and feel as if we are not enough. One of the many hurdles parents must conquer is fear of lack of self-control. Why would we consider homeschooling a bunch of unruly children when we can’t even control ourselves half the time?

It might seem like homeschoolers have it all together; often, that is the image being portrayed to those around us. We not only school our children, all four of them, but maintain a clean house, always find awesome field trips to go on, have time for ministry, and are pros in the kitchen. The images we post on Instagram would lead you to believe this. Our Facebook posts often share our incredible journeys and advancements in learning. Tweets tell others how much fun we’re having at the moment.

While I certainly hope this is generally true of most homeschooling families – I’d like to think we have fun and enjoy our kids – the truth is not so perfect. The truth is… we’re all lacking somewhere.

I have yet to meet a parent who “has it all together”. Oh, I’ve met some wonderful, loving, Christian families (don’t get me wrong), but, they are not perfect. Those who have been homeschooling a little longer are not doing so because they have reached perfection or have mastered the art of self-control. Rather, they homeschool through the moments of testing and emerge the wiser.

Rest assured, we all have our moments. Let’s be honest. Some of us lack patience (probably a great deal of us); some are lazy. Others stress our children out with high expectations, too much work, or lack of involvement. None of us is perfect.

Here’s the beautiful thing. God didn’t call us to homeschool because we had it all together or because we were such incredible people. He called us to homeschooling because He wanted this for our children and He asked us to be faithful. He isn’t asking you to be perfect, He’s asking you to be obedient to His call.

Each of us is still a work in progress, being molded by our Creator into something better. Allow God to use your imperfect self to bring Him glory. Step out in faith, knowing He will see you through. You can do all things in Christ!

“Not that I have already obtained it or have already become perfect, but I press on so that I may lay hold of that for which also I was laid hold of by Christ Jesus”
Philippians 3:12

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Patience, Young Paduan

"T" and II have often noticed that when my internal thermostat is not where it is supposed to be, the reason usually lies with impatience. Something didn’t get done fast enough, something didn’t get done correctly, someone didn’t listen the first time, and things of that nature.

While it would be easy to blame my circumstances for my impatience and not take responsibility, the fact is I am to blame. I am the one who has allowed myself to get to this point and I need to learn better.

It would probably be best if I learned to recognize what “sets me off” and then I can take action. Thinking back, it really all boils down to about four things:

I am running out of time: It often happens that when I cut myself short on time, I start to panic and become impatient. Where did the time go? Why didn’t we get out of here faster?

I have learned over the years to plan well, making sure to give myself extra time just in case there are unforeseen circumstances.

Something didn’t get done correctly: (Sigh) I wish I could say that whenever my kids make a mistake, I gently correct them and show them the proper way to do things. However, that would not be true. I find that I get impatient when I have to show them, time and time and time again, how something needs to be done.

The Lord has gotten my heart over this one though; how often has He had to show me something, over and over and over again? I am getting better, but at times impatience still creeps in.

Someone isn’t listening to instructions: This one is the hardest for me. I dislike having them disregard me or not follow through with something given to them. If I ask them to do something, I like it done right away. If I tell them something needs to get done, I don’t want to be given an argument.

I have come to realize that when my kids aren’t listening, the fault is mine! I need to be better training them to listen and obey. I also need to make sure that they hear my instructions clearly and understand my intentions. With work and time, it will get better.

My pride has been hurt: I think pride is the root of the problem! My pride is a sensitive thing and when my pride is pricked, I get impatient. How dare they not listen to me? How dare they drag their feet or not do it right the first time; after all, didn’t I show them the right way to do it? Why can’t they just do what I want?

I need to learn to take a step back and think things through. Very often, my kids aren’t trying to be disobedient, I have just set my expectations too high. It isn’t their fault when I haven’t planned out our day well or there are unexpected delays. I also need to remember that they are young and still learning. In time, they will do things correctly the first time and not need as much instruction. They will come to listen and obey, when they are trained to do so.

Whether it is chores, homeschooling, relationships, or work; patience is a virtue that we cannot do without. Knowing my own limits and working through them, will help me to better get a handle on my patience.

I remember hearing once, that if you ask the Lord to give you patience, He will often bring you trials by which to learn it. I pray that as I get older and mature in the Lord, I will better develop patience. That as I learn, I will be teaching my children by example.

Do you struggle with impatience, too? What usually “sets you off”?