Ugh! My alarm clock is ringing in my ear and the multitude of responsibilities which need to get done today are screeching my name. Do you think anyone will notice if I just pull the covers over my head and never emerge? I know I need to get out of bed, but I don’t want to!
While, to some, it might seem our family has it all together, let me assure you we still have off days. There are times when I don’t want to do dishes ten times a day. The kids don’t want to do their arithmetic and the man does not want to mow the lawn. However, life is very rarely about what we want to do.
I’m sure this conundrum existed when our family consisted of just my husband and I, but now that we have four not so little kiddos in the house we seem to address this issue a lot more than before. Generally, our children are amiable and willing to please, but, on occasion, we are forced to listen to not so subtle whining and the inevitable, “But I don’t want to!”
After hearing this complaint used far too often, I thought I would give my children a taste of their own medicine. The next time they complained about ‘not wanting’ to do something, I replied, “You’re absolutely correct! Let’s spend the day only doing what we want to do, okay? You do what you want and I’ll do what I want” When it came to wanting a drink… sorry, mommy doesn’t want to. When it came to lunch time… sorry, mommy doesn’t want to. When it came to working on a project they were excited about… sorry, I’m busy reading right now. Needless to say, it didn’t take long for them to realize this was not going to work! They happily agreed that life wasn’t about what we wanted to do, but what needed to get done.
Are there times in life when we can make the choice to not do something? Absolutely! We weigh these decisions constantly. However, there also comes a time when we need to put on our big girl/boy shoes and just get moving!
Our children need to see us model this behavior. They need to understand we are human, too. We don’t always want to get out of bed. We don’t always want to do the dishes, clean the house, run the errands, or the myriad of other things which need to be handled on a daily basis. Through seeing us pursue to the end, our children learn character.
The fact is, we all have to do things we don’t “want” to do. We do them anyway because they need to get done. The question is whether we’ll handle them with grace…
Time to Chime In: If there was one responsibility you could cross off your list forever, which would it be?
You tough them a really good lesson with what you did. I used the same thing as well and it works wonders. They finally understand the concept of compromises. Well done.
Usually I don’t want to clean… or do the laundry. Especially on beautiful days. And on some days I really, really, really don’t want to play Barbie all day 😉
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Thank you; that was very kind.
Playing with Barbies would definitely not be on my list of favorite things to do. You have my sympathies. 🙂
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Oh? Just one thing? But I don’t WANT to…I want to list ten…. Hmm… Ok… Just one, huh? Id have to say cleaning the kitchen then…too time consuming! And yes, I’m tired of doing it over and over and over…… Great post!
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Very cute! What is it about the kitchen that has everyone running? 🙂 It’s the stuff of nightmares!
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Oh, I would never, ever cook a single thing again. Ever. We definitely have those “we don’t want to” days around here. Like you, we’re teaching that life isn’t just about what we want…but, every once in a while, it’s okay to put off our chores until tomorrow in the name of watching a movie together or going on a picnic or some such thing. 🙂
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Cooking seems to be a common theme running today. There are quite a few people who dislike cooking. 🙂
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Yes yes yes. This is a great article. I’d tell you my one thing, but I don’t want to yet. Ok now I do. I would like to cross off putting up laundry. I don’t mind washing, drying or folding, but putting it up? Now that’s going too far. I want to read.
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(laughing) Too funny! Laundry, huh? I could see how that gets tedious.
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Oh goodness, I agree – just one? It’s a toss up between cleaning the bathroom and preparing/making/cleaning up after meals. Great post! I have those moments with my kids too, pointing out all the things I do for them that I really don’t want to do…. but do it anyway because I love them.
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Absolutely mine would be cooking….I would never, ever do it again 🙂
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No cooking… would you prefer a hired chef or a special box where food magically appears? 🙂
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I think I may just do this 🙂 only my husband will be involved too. He wants to lay down and watch TV worn me. Sorry, not today! I just wish he would do that with the kids and realize that it’s not all about what they want. He’s so afraid of disciplining them because their mother just left them, that they get whatever they want, including over 14 goes off game time straight in one day. That has stopped but now he’s babying his daughter. Ugh. I swear I just want to be single again sometimes!
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Integrating families can be a challenge. Our thoughts and prayers go out to you. We’re sure, with time and trial, you’ll find a routine which works best. 🙂
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Your question prompted a different response than I expected. As I started mentally clicking through chores, I began realizing that they were not really that bad. Now to remember that !
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Wow! What a lovely thought.
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Thanks for your honesty! Our kids are always watching and learning. I will try the “don’t want to” game:)
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Let us know how it works for your family! We’d love to hear what helped you.
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Weeding. I used to love it, but now it just frustrates me, probably because I don’t get out to garden often enough. Sigh.
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We can wholeheartedly agree; gardening is something we wish we could get to more often, but don’t do often enough.
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As a fellow homeschool mom, I relate!!! I love it….sorry mom doesn’t want to lol…I’m using that pretty soon
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I want rid of the laundry! There is no winning the battle and there is never an end in sight. It’s one of those tasks that never gets completed. I dont want to!!!
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I have to agree with never. ever cooking again. I’m hoping that one of my nerdy kids will grow up and invent a real replicator like in Star Trek. 🙂
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